We both agree that our time with you was life changing and absolutely necessary. It was difficult to reach out and ask for help but it was clear that we were not headed down a good path in our marriage. A good way to sum it up, post therapy, is that we were stuck. We were fully engaged in a power struggle that caused conflict in daily interactions. You can only justify unhappiness in your own marriage by comparing to others (don’t compare yourself to others) you see as worse off for so long before you realize that things not only can get better, but that they have to before they get worse. There is no autopilot in marriage, only ups and downs. Upward is maintenance, to which the key is always communication and a conscious relationship in which each partners focus is selfless love of the other. The downs come with poor communication and lack of understanding each others needs and motivations. Simple misunderstandings that could be resolved quickly end up chipping away at the rock that your relationship is meant to be. Had it not been for you and the work you are doing we are confident that we would not be we anymore. It’s not a quick fix, it is work, but all great teams need a great coach to organize, guide and teach skills that make you better and in the marriage arena this is the difference between sinking and swimming. We are grateful for you and your passion to help others repair, grow and heal our relationships and each other. Your help guiding us through the exercises laid out in Getting The Love You Want absolutely tipped the scales in our favour. We found the book to be easy to follow as it is more conversational psychology as opposed to a textbook but it’s one thing to read a book and a whole other game when applying the information and that’s where you were the key to our success. K&M from Windsor