When couples come into my office, generally things are not going very well. I propose they take a trip with me. The Wellness Journey moves them from where they are, which is often on Pain Island, to where they want to be, which is on Pleasure Island. On Pain Island couples often feel or say: […]

0 Negativity is the last piece of the combination lock to having the relationship of your dreams. The first four pieces are: The past affects the present Safety – your lower brain/brain stem The Safe Conversation Process – mirroring, validation and empathy The Space Between In a conscious relationship you want to commit to eliminating […]

The Safe Conversation Process is a structured way of talking that ensures safety. It is a three-step process consisting of: mirroring, validation, and empathy. The mirroring step makes sure you have really listened to and heard your partner before you can speak.  The VALIDATION step takes issues out of the power struggle, which tends to […]

If safety is all-important in a relationship, and if the past does affect the present, and since talking is the main way we communicate with each other, then we absolutely must learn to talk to our partner in a safe way – about anything. The Safe Conversations process ensures partners do just that. It is […]