“The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives.” At some level, we all know how important relationships are: with our partner, our parents, our children, our friends, our workmates etc. We are always in relationship and when there is a breakdown, it affects us. This was brought home yesterday when talking to a couple who are estranged from their son. They feel helpless and devastated. They would do anything to repair the relationship but there is no movement from the other side.
Couples in Relationships
As a relationship coach, I work with couples whose relationship has broken down to some extent or other. They know or remember what they had, but seem unable to pick up the pieces. The term Relationship Wizard sounds a little pretentious even to me, but I like it. I have always been a big fan of Mary Stewart’s trilogy The Crystal Cave, The Hollow Hills, and The Last Enchantment, which tells the tale of King Arthur from the viewpoint of Merlin, his Wizard. A Wizard points the way – others do the work. Merlin points out the sword in the stone; Arthur has to pull it out. As well there is a bit of mystery and magic in the term wizard and I feel there is magic and mystery when a couple I’m working with catches the vision – they see they can really have the relationship they truly want and then begin the work of creating it. After over 30 years of coaching couples, I still get excited when that happens – and it happens regularly in the office.
Which brings me to the Masterclass on March 17 from 7-8 in the evening and March 25th from 1-2 in the afternoon. They are both free but you will need to register for them HERE. I will simply be pointing the way – here is what you need to do to create a great relationship. You and your partner then are the ones who will have to do the work. As well as being a Wizard, I am also a coach (often the two roles overlap.) For those of you who have coached – what do you really want from your players? First of all, that they are coachable and secondly, that they do what you ask of them to the best of their ability. That is it and that is all I ask of my couples.
Over 30 years ago I trained with Dr. Harville Hendrix and his wife, Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt, the creators of Imago Relationship Therapy and the authors of their best-selling book Getting the Love You Want. Just like I didn’t invent hockey, but I can coach it; I didn’t invent Imago Relationship Therapy, but I can coach it. I truly believe they have cracked the code on relationships. Much like having the right combination to a lock – once you know the combination, it is much easier to open the lock. The Masterclass will outline the 5 pieces of the combination you need to create the relationship of your dreams. As I tell my couples, it is not rocket science, but you do have to line up all the pieces – leave one out, the lock doesn’t open.
The Masterclass is free – on Wed. March 17, 7-8 in the evening and on Thursday, March 25 1-2 in the afternoon. Please spread the word to anyone you know who might benefit. At the end, I will invite couples who might want more personal coaching to let me know on Messenger and I will get back to them. As my business card states: “The tools are available in today’s world to have the relationship of your dreams.”