We’ve reached Truth 7 in the book, Negativity is a Wish in Disguise. Harville, in this chapter, is dealing with frustrations, which tend to be the hardest piece of the Imago system. Why? Typically, what frustrates your partner is difficult for you to change because often it is your weak suit. For example, way back, […]
Truth #4 (cont.): Being Present for Each Other Heals the Past
From Making Marriage Simple Truth #4 (continued) Being Present for Each Other Heals the Past by Helen In the first part of this chapter Helen shared how in the Imago system we seem to be attracted to a partner in an adult intimate relationship that replays the same challenges we had as kids. Our task […]
Chapter 4: The Imago System: The Past Affects the Present
The last piece of the combination lock is the Imago System. Harville and Helen made a huge intuitive leap in our understanding of relationships by making the connection between the unconscious image – the Imago (Imago is the Latin word for image) children form of their primary caretakers from childhood (the person who loves me, […]
