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The Wellness Journey: Pain Island to Pleasure Island

When couples come into my office, generally things are not going very well. I propose they take a trip with me. The Wellness Journey moves them from where they are, which is often on Pain Island, to where they want to be, which is on Pleasure Island. On Pain Island couples often feel or say negative things. Things you might feel are not feeling heard, distance from one another, disillusionment, sadness, anger, resentment and frustration. Perhaps you will even add a few words of your own. They know what they had at one time, but are now stuck in counter-productive behaviours and seem unable, on their own, to escape the negative recurring cycles.

What You Feel on Pleasure Island

The Wellness Journey takes them to Pleasure Island. On Pleasure Island couples feel: connected, loved, heard and accepted for who they are. And again you can add your own words, but it is a relaxed, fun place to be where you can just hang out. There are no arrows coming.

I become their coach. I prefer coach to therapist simply because the connotation around therapy is that there is something wrong with a person. Whereas, when coaching, there is typically nothing wrong with my players, but sometimes what they are doing isn’t working as well as they would like. The same is true of relationships. Now you can keep doing what you are doing, or, over the next six weeks, I will be unpacking how you can get to you where you want to be – on Pleasure Island.

Rate Your Relationship

So, if you had to rate your relationship, right now, on a scale of 1 – 10, 10 being the best and 1 not so good, where would you put yourselves? On Pleasure Island couples are at a 9 or 10 all the time. The Wellness Journey is designed to teach you the necessary skills to get there and keep you there. Stay tuned – next time we will look at the three intermediate steps of that journey.

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What Conscious Partners Know: 24 and 25

This week, we’re exploring What Conscious Partners Know: 24 and 25 They need to acknowledge each other’s “otherness”, accept each other’s differences, affirm each other’s reality, adore each other’s traits, and advocate for each other’s reality and potential. They must differentiate before they can connect, so they accept each other as an “other” and accept […]

What Conscious Partners Know – 22 and 23

Continuing on with What Conscious Partners Know – Chapters 22 and 23 Connecting is sustained by intentionality, so they speak with a positive tone and use only appreciative or neutral words in all transactions, which helps them feel connected most of the time. The sign of a thriving relationship is how quickly partners engage in […]

Appreciations: Harville and Helen

I have said this before but I think it is worth repeating:  I truly believe the fastest way forward for any couple is to protect the Space-Between them. It is a real energy field, and you can tell, can’t you, when there is tension in the Space-Between? It is either tension-free or it is not. […]

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That's how he likes to think of himself - a coach. John Sullivan won't fix your relationship. He gives you the tools to help you build permanent and lasting connections and a deeper intimacy with those in your life.

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