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Five-Minute Relationship Repair Quickly heal upsets, Deepen intimacy and Use differences to strengthen love by Susan Campbell and John Grey (con’t) 3 Helpful Tips from The Relationship Repair Book There were three bits of information that I found very helpful in the first few chapters of their book. 1. Being Triggered What was actually new…

Five-Minute Relationship Repair Quickly heal upsets, Deepen intimacy and Use differences to strengthen love By Susan Campbell and John Grey The first rule in relationship repair – when you find yourself being pulled down into an unwanted and upsetting place, metaphorically the Hole – stop digging! The shovels we use are: “blaming, criticizing, name-calling, judging,…

Last week I came across and shared, a document entitled 12 Relationship Green Flags. I had heard of relationship red flags but I thought this was kind of a neat spin on the concept. My wife then encouraged me to enlarge on the idea and together we expanded the list to include relationship red, and…

In October, Harville Hendrix and his wife Helen LaKelly Hunt, the creators of Imago Relationship Therapy, were on our live Facebook show – Soiree Lifestyle Series 2020. They covered two broad areas. Relational Competency The first I wrote about in last month’s newsletter “What advice would you give couples just starting out?” The second area…

If you have ever asked “why do couples fight? or why does the dream become the nightmare?, you are not alone. Harville Hendrix and his wife, Helen LaKelly Hunt, the creators of Imago Relationship Therapy, struggled with why couples fight for over 40 years ago. Their answer, I believe, has cracked the code on relationships….

This part of the Wellness Journey helps to re-energize the relationship. It takes couples from feeling not heard, frustrated and not respected (Pain Island) to where they do feel loved, cared for, important and joyful (Pleasure Island). If you are experiencing these challenges in your relationship or if you know of anyone who is please…

So as we journey from Pain Island to Pleasure Island, there will be three stops along the way and three challenges to master at each stop. First step in your Wellness Journey Reboot. Like a computer that isn’t working exactly the way we want it to, the first course of action is to reboot it….

Typically when we think of a relationship we think of two people. I am suggesting that you begin to think of your relationship as the two of you plus the space between you. You might say: “Isn’t that just empty space.” Yes and No. It is just empty space but it is more! The Space…

For many couples, and individuals, the Covid Pandemic has added a good deal of stress to their lives. Job loss, businesses closing, not working, no going for coffee or to the gym, kids at home, homeschooling, daycare closed – there are a lot of ways life has been turned upside down. In the midst of…

For years I have stressed the importance of safety in an intimate relationship and I still believe it is paramount. However, in their 3rd edition of Getting the Love You Want (2018), Harville Hendrix and his wife Helen LaKelly Hunt, are giving more and more importance to, what they are calling, the Space Between. And…