• Home
  • About
  • Services
    • Marriage Counselling
    • Couples Therapy
    • Relationship Coaching
    • Imago Therapy
  • Shop
  • FREE Master Class
  • Blog
  • Resources
  • Contact

John Sullivan Counselling

Marriage Counselling and Couples Therapy

P: 519-966-1408   C: 226-346-2503
FREE INITIAL ASSESSMENT

Holiday Relationship Tip 3

The 12 days of Christmas Relationship Tips

3. The Sacred Space Between

Typically we think of a relationship as two people, you and you, but what’s between you is a sacred space. My challenge to you is to start thinking of your relationship as the two of you, plus the space between you. It is a real energy field, isn’t it? And you can tell when there is tension in that energy field, it is either tense or not tense, and there is no middle ground. 

Quantum physics and quantum theory tells us that our whole universe is mainly energy and that it is all connected, it is all in a relationship – atom to atom, molecule to molecule, planet to planet, galaxy to galaxy. Your relationship is a microcosm of the vast macrocosm. If you put negativity into that space between it causes disconnect whereas in reality what you really want is to connect.

The Sacred Space Between

I believe the fastest way forward for any couple is to pay attention to the space between. It is a holy ground, a sacred space. You can’t keep putting negativity into the space between as the negativity causes a disconnect. And if the space between becomes too negative then people start to avoid it. Why would I go into a toxic space?

I think when people fall in love the space between is pretty positive – it is new, exciting, fun, and romantic. Then it is small things – a criticism, rolling the eyes, walking away, shutting down, and over time the space between becomes more negative, and like I said, if it becomes too negative, then people start to avoid it. 

Relationship tip 3

Zero negativity in the Space Between – it is holy ground, sacred space. Check with your partner at the end of the day – did either of you experience negativity? More on this tomorrow.

Filed Under: Uncategorized

Relationship Issues

The Space Between: Quantum Field Theory

Let me say at the outset, that I won’t do justice to the complexities explored in this chapter on quantum physics and quantum field theory.  It is above my pay grade. Although, I do know that more and more, as a coach, I urge couples to pay closer attention to The Space Between.  The authors […]

The Nonnegotiable Conditions For Restoring & Sustaining Connecting

So what are the nonnegotiable conditions for restoring and sustaining connecting?  First, “The basic tenet of Imago is: Being present and connecting through relationship is ultimately what transforms both partners, not attempting to change themselves or their partner as separate individuals.”  (p.10) This statement sums up the shift in therapy from the Newtonian worldview to […]

Metatheory as Perspective

So what is the lens, the metatheory, the perspective, through which we, as Imago therapists, look at our couples? The authors go into a fairly lengthy historical analysis of human suffering and its mitigation.  “In all the ages of human speculation on our fate, suffering itself (as a phenomenal experience) has been identified as anxiety, […]

Older Articles

About The Coach

That's how he likes to think of himself - a coach. John Sullivan won't fix your relationship. He gives you the tools to help you build permanent and lasting connections and a deeper intimacy with those in your life.

Services

  • Marriage Counselling – Windsor
  • Couples Therapy – Windsor
  • Relationship Coaching – Windsor
  • Imago Therapy

Connect

           

Contact

P: 519-966-1408 C: 226-346-2503 john@johnsullivancounselling.com
Hours - Mon-Fri 9am to 8pm
Sat. 9am to 5pm

© Copyright 2016 John Sullivan Counselling · All Rights Reserved · Website by Oliver Marketing · Admin