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The Myth of Wishing and Waiting

September is often a time for new beginnings. As the summer comes to a close, new resolutions are made. For those with school-age children, it is the start of a new term and all that entails.

Relationship Coaching

I am a relationship coach. I would encourage you, if your relationship needs it, to make a new beginning this September. Wishing and waiting won’t solve anything. Time does not heal all wounds. If there are problems in a marriage that don’t get addressed they actually get worse as time goes by. The clock is ticking. Statistically, couples wait 6 or 7 years before taking steps to improve their relationship. Unfortunately, often by that time, it is too late. Some couples do “stick it out” for the sake of the kids or for whatever reason. They then live with regret as they slip farther and farther apart from their partner.

Counseling and Therapy Stigma

Culturally, I think people resist going to counseling or marriage therapy because the connotation is that there is something wrong with them, which is why I prefer the term “coach”. As a coach, typically there is nothing wrong with my players but sometimes what they are doing isn’t working as well as they would like. The same is true of relationships. There is nothing wrong with the couples I work with, other than yes, we are all bent out of shape a bit, but some of what they are doing isn’t working as well as they would like. Now they have a choice. They can keep doing what they are doing, or they can choose to do things differently.

New Beginnings

The tools are available in today’s world to have the relationship of your dreams. We have a much better idea of what needs to happen to make a relationship work than we did even 50 years ago.

On a scale of 1 to 10 with 10 being the best and 1 not so good, how would you rate your relationship? If you are not at a 9 or 10 consistently, don’t wait. It is time to make a move. If your relationship is not where you want it then I would encourage you to make a new start this September. Wishing and waiting for your relationship to improve is a myth.

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Metatheory as Perspective

So what is the lens, the metatheory, the perspective, through which we, as Imago therapists, look at our couples? The authors go into a fairly lengthy historical analysis of human suffering and its mitigation.  “In all the ages of human speculation on our fate, suffering itself (as a phenomenal experience) has been identified as anxiety, […]

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That's how he likes to think of himself - a coach. John Sullivan won't fix your relationship. He gives you the tools to help you build permanent and lasting connections and a deeper intimacy with those in your life.

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