Enneagram 7 is the most enthusiastic and optimistic type on the Enneagram. Motivated by the need for happiness and planning enjoyable activities, contributing to the world, and avoiding suffering and pain. Sevens can’t get enough out of life and are always ready to move on to the next best thing.
Enneagram 7’s biggest fear is experiencing negative emotions and boredom. Life is a party to be embraced. Their most obvious strength is their ability to turn any negative experience into a positive one. They are outgoing, generous, and resilient. At their best, they are fulfilled and content right where they are, allowing them to rest without having to keep “doing.”
Relationship with Enneagram 7
Enneagram 7’s are light-hearted, generous, outgoing, caring, and fun in relationships. They introduce friends and loved ones to new activities and adventures. I am married to a very aware seven and can certainly attest to her introducing me to new activities, adventures and just having fun together.
Yesterday, for example, she encouraged me to go to a friend’s for dinner and a hot tub. The last thing I would have done on my own but it was truly enjoyable for both of us, so yes these different energies are real and do express themselves every day. It just helps to be aware of them.) Sevens are also cheerleaders for the people in their lives; they want what is best for them as well.
Years ago, before we were introduced to the Enneagram, Crystal, being a seven, was always on the lookout for the new, the exciting, the next adventure. Remember, I am a six who tends to operate out of fear. Whereas she might be saying “I can’t begin to count the fun things I want to do”, my six energy had at least one foot, sometimes both feet, on the brakes.
Knowing our types has been very helpful in our relationship to be able to recognize we tend to see the same situation from totally different perspectives but not to make one wrong and the other right. They are just different and we can figure out what to do so we are both ok.
The wings of seven are 6 and 8. Sevens with a more developed six wing tend to be more loyal, endearing, responsible, and anxious. Sevens with a more developed eight wing tend to be more exuberant, aggressive, competitive and materialistic.
The movement for sevens is to 5 and 1. The positive move to five helps them become more introspective and objective, get in touch with their fears, and become more serious and thus are taken more seriously. The positive move to one helps them follow through and put their ideals into action and become more interested in the welfare of others.
So there you have it. A quick look at sevens on the Enneagram.