The Safe Conversation Process is the key skill that couples must learn if they are going to be able to discuss anything in a meaningful way. Typically what people say when they come into the office goes something like this: “We aren’t communicating well” or “It is our communication”. It doesn’t matter much what the […]
Safe Conversation: It’s Not WHAT You Say But HOW You Say It
I imagine we have all probably heard the saying “It’s not what you say but how you say it.” Helen, who is writing this chapter, takes this idea to a whole new level. In her last chapter, Being Present for Each Other Heals the Past, she challenged us to answer the call to become each […]
Chap. 9: The Imago Dialogue – Empathy
The third step of the Safe Conversation Process is empathy – getting in touch with the sender’s feelings. Empathy is the communication to another person that you hear and understand his or her feelings and that they make sense. It is really a guess at what they are feeling. I might say, “You seem angry”, […]
