We started our Wellness Journey on Pain Island where, in a relationship, you might feel unheard, unloved, angry, frustrated, not respected, etc. The journey we are on is taking us to Pleasure Island, where you will feel loved, heard, understood and joyful. Our first of three stops along the way was on Reboot, where we […]

When couples come into my office, generally things are not going very well. I propose they take a trip with me. The Wellness Journey moves them from where they are, which is often on Pain Island, to where they want to be, which is on Pleasure Island. On Pain Island couples often feel or say […]

Zero Negativity is the last piece of the combination lock to having the relationship of your dreams. The first four Keys to the Lock are: The past affects the present Safety – your lower brain/brain stem The Safe Conversation Process – mirroring, validation and empathy The Space Between Eliminate All Negativity In a conscious relationship […]

The Safe Conversation Process is a structured way of talking that ensures safety. It is a three-step process consisting of: mirroring, validation, and empathy. The mirroring step makes sure you have really listened to and heard your partner before you can speak. Validation The validation step takes issues out of the power struggle, which tends […]