In this chapter (Principle 7), John Gottman emphasizes the importance of going deeper. Marriage is not just about kids, having jobs, and making love. “The more shared meaning you can find, the deeper, richer, and more rewarding your relationship will be. Along the way, you’ll also be strengthening your marital friendship. This in turn will […]
Principle 6: Overcome Gridlock
“To navigate your way out of gridlock, you have to first understand that no matter how seemingly insignificant the issue, gridlock is a sign that you each have dreams for your life that the other isn’t aware of, hasn’t acknowledged or doesn’t respect.” (p.238) Obviously, an issue that keeps cropping up in a relationship is […]
Principle 5: Solve Your Solvable Problems
John Gottman divides marital conflict into solvable problems and perpetual problems. Perpetual problems will probably be with a couple in one way or another for the rest of their lives. Principle 5 specifically, deals with solvable problems, whereas Principle #6 will deal with overcoming gridlock, the perpetual issue. If you are going to be successful […]
