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Zero Negativity: The Fastest Way Forward (con’t)

While zero negativity in the Space Between is the fastest way forward, it seems to be the most difficult piece of the puzzle for couples to master. Why? I think because to a large extent, the negativity is unconscious. If a couple has been together for 5 or 10 years, they probably have built up […]

Of Hip Replacements and Relationship Coaching

On Sept. 10 I had my left hip replaced at Humber River Hospital in Toronto, using the direct anterior approach. I was operated on at 8:00 AM, woke up in recovery at 9:20 and was released at 12:00. I was back home in Windsor at 400 PM that same day. My mother 20 years ago, […]

Chapter 8: Safe Conversation Process in Every Aspect of Life

In Chapter 8, we will explore how Safe Conversations Work in Every Aspect of Life. The authors simply offer examples from around the world, of Safe Conversation process working in several situations and settings. One example was a coach with an alcoholic client. Two examples of a makeup artist using it at a photo shoot. Safe […]

Chapter 7 The Space-Between

To be quite honest, the concept of the Space-Between has been the most helpful insight for my work with clients in the past 5 or so years. Stewarding the Space-Between, I now believe, is the fastest way forward for any couple. Negativity in the Space-Between causes disconnect and what couples want is connection. When the […]

Chapter 6: The Practice of Affirmations

Over time, the authors realized the practice of affirmations was missing from the Safe Conversation Process. They had the Safe Conversation dialogue in place, along with empathy with everyone and zero negativity. “But as we interviewed clients about how the Safe conversation process was working for them, we learned that it was not enough to […]