What typically brings couples into my office is when things are not going well in their marriage – when there is DANGER. And yes, they have to learn how to deal with things when they go south, but I want couples to live the rest of their lives where it is SAFE. In Imago we […]
Your Brain has a Mind of Its Own
Helen, who is writing this chapter, begins with: “The brain can be divided into two parts: the lower brain, which we call the Crocodile; and the higher brain, which we call the Owl.” (p.100) Years ago, in my book Dream Relationship, I began with a similar concept: “Safety: the key to a great relationship. The […]
Incompatibility is Grounds for Marriage
In our culture, generally, that statement reads “Incompatibility is grounds for divorce”. Harville, who is writing this chapter, flips it upside down. Yes, in the romantic love phase of a relationship, it tends to be the things two people have in common that attracts them together and that makes for a strong bond. He goes […]
