The Reconnecting Process The challenge yesterday was to see whether your relationship received a frowny face or a smiley face for the day.  The next step is to then use a Reconnecting Process. My goal is to have you eliminate all negativity from the Space Between as soon as you can. I encourage couples to […]

The 12 days of Christmas Relationship Tips 4. A Calendar Yesterday’s tip was zero negativity in the Space Between – it is holy ground, sacred space. And then I went on to say – check with your partner at the end of the day – did either of you experience negativity? Here is another challenge […]

The 12 days of Christmas Relationship Tips 3. The Sacred Space Between Typically we think of a relationship as two people, you and you, but what’s between you is a sacred space. My challenge to you is to start thinking of your relationship as the two of you, plus the space between you. It is […]

The 12 days of Christmas Relationship Tips 2. Safe Conversation Having safe conversation is a structured process that allows two people to talk to each other about anything but in a safe manner. Safe Conversations takes things out of the power struggle (I am right and you are wrong). It simply makes sure each partner […]

The 12 days of Christmas Relationship Tips Create Safety Sounds simple, but safety is one of the keys to a great relationship. Here we are hopefully using the cerebral cortex part of our brain, but we all also have the midbrain – which does all kinds of things, and the brain stem. Scientists tell us […]