The Safe Conversation Process is the key skill that couples must learn if they are going to be able to discuss anything in a meaningful way. Typically what people say when they come into the office goes something like this: “We aren’t communicating well” or “It is our communication”. It doesn’t matter much what the […]
Chap 9. – Imago Dialogue: Validation
“To make somebody feel valued as a person, or feel that his or her ideas or opinions are worthwhile … is precisely what the second step of Imago Dialogue, validation, is meant to do. Very simply, it sends the message from the receiver to the sender, ‘You make sense, and what makes sense is …”(p.206) […]
The Space Between: Part 5
I have been talking about the importance of the Space Between. Typically we think of a relationship as you and you – two people. The challenge is to view your relationship as the two of you plus the Space Between you. It is a real energy field and you can tell, can’t you, when there […]
