Coming up to Valentine’s Day – the tools are available in today’s world to have the relationship of your dreams. So far we have seen the importance of safety. Your old reptilian brain has a 500 million-year track record, you are not going to change it. If you don’t feel safe you will protect yourself. […]
Skills: The Safe Conversation Process
The Safe Conversation Process is the key skill that couples must learn if they are going to be able to discuss anything in a meaningful way. Typically what people say when they come into the office goes something like this: “We aren’t communicating well” or “It is our communication”. It doesn’t matter much what the […]
Chap 9. – Imago Dialogue: Validation
“To make somebody feel valued as a person, or feel that his or her ideas or opinions are worthwhile … is precisely what the second step of Imago Dialogue, validation, is meant to do. Very simply, it sends the message from the receiver to the sender, ‘You make sense, and what makes sense is …”(p.206) […]
