We have all heard the statement: It’s not what you say but how you say it, that is important and for sure that is true. The tone of voice or the loudness we use with our partner can make a difference. In this chapter, however, Helen is challenging us to explore how we talk to […]
Chapter 3 – Skills: The Safe Conversation Process
Coming up to Valentine’s Day – the tools are available in today’s world to have the relationship of your dreams. So far we have seen the importance of safety. Your old reptilian brain has a 500 million-year track record, you are not going to change it. If you don’t feel safe you will protect yourself. […]
Skills: The Safe Conversation Process
The Safe Conversation Process is the key skill that couples must learn if they are going to be able to discuss anything in a meaningful way. Typically what people say when they come into the office goes something like this: “We aren’t communicating well” or “It is our communication”. It doesn’t matter much what the […]
