My Marriage: What Conscious Partners Know This will be my last blog until May. My wife and I are heading to Europe for a month to celebrate our 50th wedding anniversary. As I tell the couples that come to my office, Imago Relationship Therapy is not just theory for me, it is very personal. Our […]
What Conscious Partners Know (con’t)
Diving back in What Conscious Partners Know from Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt’s Doing Imago Relationship Therapy in the Space-Between Number 9, 10, and 11 They come together to participate in the sometimes painful, sometimes joyful dance of romantic partnership, and they know why. That anxiety gets aroused between them. How to take steps […]
What Conscious Partners Know (con’t)
What Conscious Partners Know (con’t) Numbers 6-8 from Doing Imago Relationship Therapy in the Space-Between They have complimentary defenses that are natural, and they accept that fact about each other, without judgment. They can reconstruct the memory their partner has of them by expressing new behaviours with intensity. They are different from each other and […]
What Conscious Partners Know
Let’s explore what conscious partners know. I would characterize most relationships, certainly ours was before we knew about Imago Relationship Therapy. It is described as unconscious, old brain, and reactive. For example, if my partner came on too strong, my reactive response was to shut down. If I step back and look at that response, […]
Chapter 5: Personalizing Your Relationship Playbook
In this chapter, I will help personalize your relationship playbook. As a coach, whether it was hockey or football, I was privy to many different playbooks, but I always personalized them for our team. Any adaptions we made might be either to take advantage of the talent I had available at different positions or to […]
Chapter 4: The Imago System: The Past Affects the Present
The last piece of the combination lock is the Imago System. Harville and Helen made a huge intuitive leap in our understanding of relationships by making the connection between the unconscious image – the Imago (Imago is the Latin word for image) children form of their primary caretakers from childhood (the person who loves me, […]
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