Are you a perfectionist or reformer? The Enneagram suggests that there are 9 basic human types. The different types are characterized by the numbers 1-9 as points on a circle. As humans, we all participate in all the types. You can start to figure out your type as the  number “where the traffic is heaviest”. […]

I often tell couples that half of what I do in the office is to help them become more conscious – more aware, and while much of what we do is couple’s stuff, some of it is individual stuff. We are all bent out of shape to some degree or other and part of my […]

One of the first things I ask couples to do when they come to the office is to create a Relationship Vision. If their relationship worked out just the way they wanted, what would it look like? Even couples who are conflicted know what they want. I have each partner write statements beginning with we, […]

Four weeks ago our niece, age 37, died suddenly of a massive heart attack. Obviously it has been a difficult month. My daughter Clare read this piece at the service and I thought I would share it for any of you who might also be going through a period of grief. I hope it can […]

Remember a few months ago I said, in fact, I think I have probably said it more than once, “I’ve never set a goal I didn’t reach if I set it enough times”. Well, I think I finally made it with the automated program. Relationship Coach As most of you know, I have been a […]

I have come across this research before on finding the key to happiness and health, and thought I would pass it on. The Grant and Glueck Study of Adult Development is a longitudinal study that has been following two groups of men over the last 80 years. This is to identify the psychosocial predictors of […]