The Safe Conversation Process is a structured way of talking that ensures safety. It is a three-step process consisting of: mirroring, validation, and empathy. The mirroring step makes sure you have really listened to and heard your partner before you can speak.  The VALIDATION step takes issues out of the power struggle, which tends to […]

If safety is all-important in a relationship, and if the past does affect the present, and since talking is the main way we communicate with each other, then we absolutely must learn to talk to our partner in a safe way – about anything. The Safe Conversations process ensures partners do just that. It is […]

If the past does affect the present as Imago theory contends, then especially at the start, you are probably going to be partnered with someone who will trigger old negative feelings, often unintentionally  (like the feeling of “being dismissed”). Therefore, you will need to come up with solutions so these same feelings don’t get triggered […]

“Our human’ (egoic) tendency is to want to feel good (and to avoid feeling bad) about ourselves. But without a way to recognizing, accepting and addressing all of who we are,  including the shadow side and difficult parts of our experience, our personal growth stops and we remain asleep to our potential.” Richard Rohr In […]