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• The Relationship Revolution

  The Relationship Revolution For the last 10 weeks we have been working our way through Harville Hendrix and his wife Helen’s book Making Marriage Simple 10 Relationship Saving Truths. There is a final chapter entitled The Relationship Revolution which is really their vision for the future. In the chapter we looked at last week, they…

• Truth 10: Your Marriage is the Best Life Insurance Plan

  By the end of the book readers would know that Harville likes Star Trek and that one of his favorite characters is the Vulcan, Mister Spock. In fact, Harville credits Spock with summing up what he and Helen do. “It was Spock’s good-bye blessing that inspired me: Live long and prosper, and let peace be…

• Truth 9: Your Marriage is a Laughing Matter

  The title of this chapter camouflages a more serious philosophical question: as humans, who are we really?  Harville’s contention is that: “At our core is JOY. It is our essential nature – with us from the moment of birth. Birds have flocks. Dogs have packs. Horses have herds. And humans are wired for connection.  Connection…

• Truth 8: Your Brain Has a Mind of Its Own

  Moving on to Truth 8 Brain science tells us “that the brain can be divided into two parts: the lower brain, which we call the Crocodile, and the higher brain, which we call the Owl. The lower brain is often referred to as the reptilian center of the brain. Like the Crocodile, it is highly…

• Truth 7: Negativity is a Wish in Disguise

  We’ve reached Truth 7 in the book, Negativity is a Wish in Disguise. Harville, in this chapter, is dealing with frustrations, which tend to be the hardest piece of the Imago system. Why? Typically, what frustrates your partner is difficult for you to change because often it is your weak suit. For example, way back,…

• Truth 6 (cont.): Negativity is Invisible Abuse

  Continuing with Truth #6: Negativity is Invisible Abuse. Last week Helen suggested that there are three key ways we can unknowingly slip into negativity. They are: Critical thinking, Competition, Constructive criticism. So how do you stop being negative if it is habitual? Harville and Helen’s solution for themselves was pretty straightforward. How to Stop Being Negative…