You might ask: What does quantum theory or quantum physics have to do with couples therapy? Good question! In their book Doing Imago Relationship Therapy in the Space-Between, Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt answer:  “We have attempted to base Imago Relationship Therapy, as a theory and a therapy of couplehood, on the […]

I am a coach and as such, have always insisted my players focus on the basics. In football, if my linemen could block and tackle well, we would win games. In hockey, skating, passing, checking and shooting were the four basic skills that allowed us to succeed. I believe the same is true of relationships. […]

Half of what I do in the office is to help people become more aware, more conscious. One of the areas to examine are behaviours that, in essence, are counterproductive. Couples generally recognize that they have repeated certain behaviours that are not getting them where they want to go. Freud called it the repetition compulsion. […]

During the holidays I came across an article about Pope Francis. What caught my attention was the sub title “The secret to a happy marriage in just 3 words”. Naturally I was curious and wanted to know what the three words were. It turns out they were a small part of a longer letter he […]

2 very parallel Christmas reflections. Reflections on Our Trip to South Africa 1976 – We had been in Zambia, Central Africa since September, teaching at a mission school. A fellow teacher, a Mennonite, invited us to join their family in Swaziland for the annual retreat for Mennonites working in Southern Africa. (South Africa completely surrounds […]

A thought for the holidays. Years ago Alfred Adler coined the phrase: It’s not what you possess, but how you use it.” We always have choices. Terry Fox I always use the example of Terry Fox, a young Canadian man who lost a leg to cancer. Fox decided to run across Canada – over 9,000 […]